To some writing your own wedding vows for your wedding ceremony can be a daunting task. How do you put all of your thoughts, feelings, memories and hopes for the future into just a few lines? How to I remember all of that and say it right with all those people watching me? I’m getting hot under the collar already! Just kidding, as Wedding Celebrants it’s our job to help you get this right!
Step 1: Ask for inspiration!
We’ve helped hundreds of couples get those words just right! Just ask and we will provide you with some examples for you to either use or abuse! Alternatively, pop on google and start to search for examples to see what works for you. No need to stick with ’til death do us part, you could add in promises to continue your adventures together or cook the dinner!
Step 2: Decide the right tone with your fiancee
Agree to disagree here! Consider talking to your fiancee about the tone of your vows – do you want them to be humorous? Poetic? Romantic? Also chat about the length so one of your doesn’t write an essay and the other 2 lines..(slightly awkward!). Finally, will you share them with each other before or save them as a surprise for the ceremony?
Step 3: Think story telling
Take some time out to think about your relationship. How did you feel when you first met, when did you fall in love and where did you realise it and when did you know that you wanted to spend the rest of your life with your partner?
Here are some ideas to get your started:
- Why did you decide to get married?
- What hard times have you gone through together?
- What have you supported each other through?
- What challenges do you envision in your future?
- What do you want to accomplish together?
- What makes your relationship tick?
- What did you think when you first saw your fiance?
- When did you realise you were in love?
- What do you most respect about your partner?
- How has your life gotten better since meeting your mate?
- What about them inspires you?
- What do you miss most about them when you’re apart?
- What qualities do you most admire in each other?
Step 4: Write it out
Now you have some ideas, give a draft a go. Perhaps think about mapping it out in the following way:
- Affirm your love
- Praise your partner
- Offer promises
- Close with a final vow
And get creative! Think outside the box and what makes sense to you both. It’s all about making it personal to the two of you!
Step 5: Consider the timings
Once you have your first draft, consider how long you’d like them to be. We’d stay stick to 1 or 2 minutes! There’s enough time there to express your love and get the tissues out!
Step 6: Make them pretty
Feel free to pop them over to us to we can print them for you and pass them to you on the day. We will make them ceremony ready! Alternatively, write them out for yourself without any crossing outs or additions so they are easy to read on the day!