13 Jan Choosing the best date to get married!
Your love is written in the stars, so why shouldn’t your wedding day be, too? Even if you don’t subscribe to superstitious beliefs, there’s something fun and sentimental (and not to mention comforting!) about marking the beginning of your marriage with an auspicious calendar date, whether it falls on a specific day of the week or within a monthly range. Rooted in religion, culture, and astrology, here are lucky (and unlucky) days to set the date.
The book of Genesis says, “And God saw that it was good” (Genesis 1:10 and 12) two times about the third day, which some Jewish brides and grooms interpret to mean that Tuesdays are twice as lucky for weddings.
In contrast, Friday weddings are not recommended for Jewish couples because of Shabbat, the day of rest. While not necessarily unlucky, it would certainly be untimely because of the strict rules around resting, no pictures, no music, you get the idea.
Today, most weddings take place on Saturday, but according to this folk rhyme attributed to the Celtic region, Saturday was once the least auspicious day, with Monday, Tuesday, and Wednesday cited as better options.
Monday for wealth,
Tuesday for health,
Wednesday the best day of all,
Thursday for losses,
Friday for crosses,
And Saturday no luck at all.
TAIAN OR TOMOBIKI
In Japanese culture, every day of the week has a designated level of fortune. These two days of a series of six (Rokuyo) in the Japanese calendar are considered the best for weddings. Taian, meaning great peace, is the luckiest of all, while Tomobiki means “pulling friends,” so it’s considered a good day for “pulling friends into the spirit of love” (with the exception of the noon hour, which is unlucky).
Sensho is thought to have lucky mornings and unlucky afternoons, while the reverse is true for Sakimake.
Shakku is bad luck, except at noon, and Butsumetsu is the least fortuitous day of all, as it’s when Buddha died.
Because the Jewish calendar is lunar, it’s considered lucky to get married at the beginning of the month, when the moon renews. Rosh Chodesh means “head of the month” and is treated as a mini-holiday with added blessings, which makes it a perfect time to say “I do.”
Like Rosh Chodesh in Judaism, astrologists also believe that it’s advantageous to wed after a renewed moon—also referred to as a “waxing” moon—rather than during a “waning” moon, which is considered unlucky. Note: Wait at least 12 hours after the exact new moon. And while an astrologist would weigh many other factors to determine a date (including a comparison of the bride and groom’s “birth charts”), it’s also generally advised to avoid hours when the moon is “void of course,” or between signs.
Origin: East Asia
The number eight is lucky in some Asian cultures because it sounds like the word for wealth or fortune. Thus, the eighth day of the eighth month (August 8th) is seen as special.
On the other hand, the word for the number “four” is similar to that for “death,” so bad luck is associated with April 4th, the fourth day of the fourth month.
In Hindu culture, couples often let the stars and planets decide the when and where, looking to their zodiac signs to settle on lucky times and dates to ensure a prosperous marriage.
Irish weddings were to be held during “Shrovetide,” or the days preceding Lent, with the most popular day for a ceremony being “Shrove Tuesday,” the day before Ash Wednesday.
KISLEV AND ADAR
While weddings are forbidden during biblically mandated days of rest (Rosh Hashanah, Yom Kippur, Sukkot, Passover, and Shavuot), as well as during mourning periods like the Fast of the Seventeenth of Tammuz, it’s opportune to hold a wedding when the calendar transitions into more joyful times. Enter the months of Kislev (falling around November and December), when Hanukkah is celebrated, and Adar (usually February), when the holiday of Purim is celebrated.
Usually occurring in late July or early August, TuB’Av, or the 15th of the month Av, is another favourable day to get married. According to The Talmud (the two books of Jewish civil and ceremonial laws and legends), it was then that single women would wear white to symbolise purity and holiness and go out to the fields to dance and pray to God. Men were encouraged to join them and find a possible wife.